Too many times, I hear of people giving up on their dreams in order to please their significant other. One’s not willing to compromise, so for the sake of the relationship, the other caves to make the other happy. Other times, you hear about couples calling it quits because one isn’t willing to bend.

I don’t want my significant other to ever have to choose. I don’t want them to make such big sacrifices for me, because knowing that I’m the reason that they gave up on their dreams and passions would absolutely crush me.

I don’t want my significant other to ever quit chasing their dreams. I hope they never feel the need to choose between me or their dreams, because I want to be standing right there next to them as they achieve it and reach for the stars.

I want my significant other to know that I will always support them. I want them to follow their passions and expand their knowledge as much as they’d like to, and I never want this to be an issue in our relationship.

I want my significant other to know that there will always be options. I will always be willing to meet them halfway, but it’s a two-way street. They have to be willing to offer me the same support. We have to be able to compromise and sacrifice some things, but it’s also something that doesn’t have to be permanent. Just because we can’t make something work now doesn’t mean that it will never happen. Be patient and have faith that we can do this.

The happiest couples are the couples who are both doing what they love, and doing it simultaneously. It’s something that can be achieved, but with hard work and communication. They have to be able to choose this commitment in order for it to work.

And to my future significant other, I say this:

I want you to be the best you can be. I want you to do what makes you happy, and I will never stand in your way as you pursue that. I’ll be there to cheer you on every mile of the way. Whichever direction you decide to go, I’ll be right with you, holding your hand. Please never think that being with me and chasing your dreams are two things that are unattainable while the other is present. You can have me, and you can pursue your passions, too.

We can both follow our dreams, and we can make this work. You just have to be willing to put in the effort and accept that it won’t always be easy, but also be determined not to give up when things get rough. We can do this.

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