I can’t decide if sarcasm is a characteristic you are born with or a skill you adopt later in life. Regardless of how you come to possess the beautiful skill of sarcasm, it is both a blessing and a curse. Anyone who is carefully skilled in the art of sarcasm can tell you that at times, being sarcastic is anything but easy. I’ve been a sarcastic smart ass for at least 75% of my life and I have faced all 13 of these struggles.

1. People who don’t know you just think you’re an idiot…

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2. …or a bitch.

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sarcasm4. And when you do honestly compliment them, you have to tell them that you’re being serious.

sarcasm5. When you’re around people who don’t understand sarcasm, you have to explain to them what’s going on.

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sarcasm10. You really wouldn’t be all that surprised if someone punched you.

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sarcasmWhile you can certainly take what you’re dishing it out, it’s sometimes hard to remember that not everyone is like that. Being sarcastic is a lot of work…and most of that work is trying to restrain yourself. Though it seems that everyone else is the problem when it comes to interacting with people who don’t understand sarcasm, just know that it’s much harder for them to keep up with you than it is for you to slow down for them. If it’s any consolation, some research studies that sarcastic people are smarter! Look at you, Einstein!

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