About a month and a half ago, I met a guy who I thought was really sweet, and with whom I was convinced I shared a strong connection with. We went on two dates, and had a lot of fun, until he deleted me on social media and blocked my number because I didn’t put out after the second date.

What I would really like to know is this: do these guys really think we’re that stupid?

Texting me only between the hours of 11pm and 2am to “see what I’m up to” is not exactly inconspicuous. What am I doing? I am sleeping, and I’m not leaving the comfort of my bed to get some low grade ass that can’t even be bothered to take me out to dinner first.

Making what most would consider “normal” plans during appropriate daylight hours and then cancelling them and offering up the “I’m free tonight after 10pm” is a dead giveaway too. These men can’t honestly think that we aren’t catching on to this, especially when it happens consistently.

Worst of all? It’s so disheartening. It’s incredibly disrespectful when you’re clearly putting the time and effort into getting to know this guy on a personal, deeper level, yet all he cares about is getting in your pants.

Am I clearly throwing it out there that sex is the only thing I’m wanting from this arrangement? Then by all means, bootycall me until the cows come home. But when it’s quite obvious that I’m looking for more than just that, have the courtesy to either put in that effort, or quit bothering me during the late night hours.

What really threw me off the most about this guy that I had met and went on two dates with, is that I didn’t even notice it at first. He was incredibly sneaky. After the fact though, it was so obvious to me and I felt stupid for not seeing it.

First of all, on both instances we hung out, he told me to bring a change of clothes so I could go right to work in the morning. I had no intentions of spending the entire night with this guy.

Second of all, the one time we watched movies at his place, he hardly paid attention to the movie and spent the entire time trying to put the moves on me and wanted to make out.

I just don’t understand how hard it is to be honest about what it is you’re looking for, especially when I’m clear from the beginning. There’s nothing wrong with just wanting to hookup, but when the other person is clear that that’s not what they’re looking for, it’s so disrespectful to try to convince them otherwise. I never wanted to be that girl who says she doesn’t trust men, but it’s repeated incidents lately that make it extremely hard for me to believe anything a guy tells me when it comes to dating and relationships. Come on guys…don’t be that guy.

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